Chapter One
Part Four
Idea #1 – Naturalism. Have this baby, from conception to
pregnancy to birth and through unlimited nursing years as close to nature’s
design as humanly possible. Oh this one excites me and did so even back before
I got pregnant with Eva. But now I even know more about how to give it up to
Mother Nature. I’m starting with a very clean mind and body. Impurities be
gone! Even now, at least two months before Stephen’s vasectomy reversal surgery
renders us fertile, I am eliminating the toxins and rolling in the holier than
thou nutrition and relaxation techniques. I am excited about conceptions
through pleasure and amorousness, pregnancy that includes afternoon naps between
nesting and long hikes in the woods, an intimate Blessingway ceremony, birth
under a starry sky in my garden, and exclusive nursing and co-sleeping to the
rhythms of the moon and sun. All this sprinkled with the wisdom of flexibility
and realism should unfold nicely.
Idea #2 – Minimalism.
Idea #3 – Stay-at-home-mom. Oh what a phrase of our times!
If we don’t go to work, then we must not go anywhere! We must stay at home
playing with our children all the live-long day and yelling at our husbands if
he asks whether his dirty socks got laundered while he was away at work. “No
honey, what the hell do you think I’ve been doing all day? I’ve been busy
playing Candyland in the floor with the kids because that is what my little
clients desired today.” In my mother’s
time, she would have been a “homemaker” concerned with all of the innerworkings
of keeping our house warm, loving, nourishing, orderly, and harmonious - a home. This would have included
interacting with the children, but it also would have included cleaning,
sewing, cooking, and attending to the emotional and social needs of all members
of the family. At least once a day, she would have ordered us outside to
entertain ourselves while she worked in the kitchen or dealt with an adult
issue. Even before her time, my grandmother was simply a housewife. This meant
that her primary focus was the needs of her husband, and part of what he needed
her to do was watch the damn kids!
My sarcasm reflects perceived notions, of course, and not
actual wisdom of experience. How do remedy that? Easy, I need to experience
life outside of the office to reach my own conclusions about the value and role
of the current “stay-at-home-mom.” Re-entering the office-style workforce can
simply hang in the air as a potential option of the future. Meanwhile, I’ve had
enough of that. I’ve served my time well.
Idea #4 – Travel. The best education comes from experience.
When we travel, we expand our minds, our tastes, and our relationships to
others. We also challenge our beliefs, our limitations, and our conditioned
assumptions. Why would I wait to do this when my children are grown? Why
wouldn’t this be the most valuable thing I could do for their education,
resulting in more adaptable and socially/emotionally centered human beings?
Travel and the basic needs of the home should be the only expenses in life.
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